How to Deal With Toxic People When you Can‘t Get Rid of Them

I am going to be honest.

I am not a guru living in the mountains and meditating for 12 hours everyday. Although I would be so game for that experience when my toddler starts throwing food on me and the dog chews up my favorite pair of leggings.

I’m normal for all intents and purposes.

This blog was created to help others that may be going through a similar experience. The goal is to help you make sense of your own journey and provide you with an another perspective to approach life from.

I am not speaking to you as an expert who has all the answers. I’m relating to you as a fellow journeyer and someone who has had the privilege of solving many, many problems. And also someone who finds great purpose in doing so.

I’m sharing this with you, so you understand that there are always solutions to your problems. Solutions are for all of us and there is one for every single problem out there.

Solutions are not only reserved for the gurus and scientists.

One thing I see happen quite often is the struggle to keep the vibe high.

Most of the time you’ll feel on top of the world, like you’re totally in your power and then those family/work/friend interactions come up. You go down these rabbit holes, letting your ego take the wheel. Then your stomach is filled with knots and you realize your thoughts have gotten away from you. Suddenly you are no longer in control of the way you feel. Everyone struggles. Enlightenment is a path, not a destination.

Not knowing how to cope with toxic people to is a common problem, so I want to share a perspective shift that has been very helpful.

I’ll preface by saying that not all toxic people are toxic to everyone. They may get along great with some people, but they are toxic to us. Their energies and ways of moving through life are detrimental to your vibe. That is all that matters. Don’t worry about what everyone else thinks of these people. Focus on how they make you feel and do it without questioning yourself. Your vibe knows what’s best for you.

It’s possible that we rub them the wrong way. They’ve got their own stuff they’re dealing with and we bother their wounds, so they put us down or judge us in an attempt to heal themselves.

What I want you to know is that another’s negativity does not have to affect you.

It is your choice what you want to experience. Their hatred, judgement, jealousy or whatever they are throwing your way, really only affects them because they are choosing to experience it. You do not have to experience this with them or accept these things into your vibration. Instead, you can experience their actions as neutral. Ignore and vibrate higher until they leave your life. This is how you can free your mind from the negativity they produce or that they are.

Remind yourself that they are prisoners to the experiences they are choosing. Feel compassion, but not guilt for them because they are doing it to themselves. They are imprisoned by their need to experience this negativity. You do not need to experience this. You can experience relief from this because you can choose to experience a positive energy instead. When their negative words or actions start running through your mind on replay, hit unsubscribe. Literally put a red X over the thought or person.

To quote the great Albert Einstein “Weak people revenge, strong people forgive and intelligent people ignore.”

You do not have to and are not forced to experience another’s negativity, only they truly have to live with their frequency.

We have all been given a beautiful gift that can help us with toxic people!

Its called free will and most of you aren’t using it!

Everyone has the power to exercise their free will by choosing how they want to think about their experiences. You have the power to choose what frequencies you want to live with.

Those who choose negativity will always become it, until they decide to no longer choose it. Their lives will reflect this choice. Negative occurrences will bombard them. Something will always be going wrong. These are the drama magnets. You are your own magnet.

You can accept or reject the frequencies you want in your life.

You do not have to accept their vibration, even if you have to deal with their physical presence. You are powerful enough to cancel their negative frequencies with your own positive frequencies.

You can produce higher frequencies until the lower ones either entrain with your frequency or leave to find another frequency that matches their own.

This is science!

Low vibrations cannot stay around high vibrations for long without leveling up or finding other low vibrations to surround themselves with somewhere else.

You do not have to accept negative frequencies as your own. You need only to vibrate higher. Your frequency of positivity has the power to cancel their frequency of negativity before it even reaches you, as long as you are emitting a higher frequency.

Experiment with this!

I promise you will be shocked! Sooner than later you will begin to notice that the toxic people in your life don’t come around as much or at all.

Maybe they have found a new job or perhaps, hopefully, they have changed their frequency and started treating you better. Until then know that you have the free will to choose what you want to experience in your journey. You can choose a higher frequency to live your life in and from. You can be free, you can be loved, you can be happy…